Can u help me(wife) make cool?

No that's okay, you should feel that way as long as it doesn't harm the ones around you. That's love really, and northamerican culture it seems okay to look at ones husband. in other cultures its not so respected. So what you are doing is right, what the other women are doing is not right... yet natural. Just try your best to look good, and treat him nice. You're probably a charming lady yourself, because a charming man would marry charming women.