How long should u wait before ur remarried?

You can't put a time limit on something of that nature as everyone IS different. My parents were the most loving couple I truly ever have seen. I NEVER heard them argue, altho I'm sure they couldn't have seen eye to eye on everything at all times. My Dad was a preacher & home most of the time other than his "normal" visits to the sick, hospitals, etc. etc. We lost Mom at 49 yrs. old. Was diagnosed with cancer, lost her 6 wks. later. My younger sister took complete care of her at home as I was married & pregnant. My first child was 5 days old when we lost her, they lived 3 1/2 hrs. away, I couldn't even go to her funeral. Dad was totally devastated at loosing her & oh SO LOST without her. He met & dated 2 women. One was also a minister, never married, 3 yrs. younger than he was. He fell in love with her & after being so close to Mom, he remarried just within the yr. of loosing Mom. She was one wonderful person! Always said how she felt privileged in meeting him & loved us girls as her own but would never even attempt to take Mom's place. My sister & I were so happy for Dad to have someone to love him & fill that empty void in his life. He "needed" someone in his life to love. We KNOW Mom would have wanted it just as things went for my Dad, would have wanted him to be happy. She nursed him thru his Dementia until he got to be too much to handle & we lost him at 87. She was 95 when we lost her. She DID love us truly like her own. I KNOW this IS a very unusual story, but it's all true, you CANNOT put a time limit on love for anyone. Possibly your mom can relate to how my Dad felt, & if they were happy, she so misses this happiness in loving someone. Good for you for supporting her as you are. It WILL mean a LOT to her to have your blessings on her new marriage...the very best to you ALL...:)