Why am I seriously attracted to abusive women?

I'm a 23 yr old male. My father was an abusive alcoholic and my mom would always go back to his abuse. She finally divorced him after 18 years. My dad died in July 2010 of diabetes. My mom remarried another loser. My step dad is an alcoholic as well, my older sister is with an alcoholic and her mans family are all alcoholics, and my second oldest sister is married now, but now she's the one that seems to treat my bro in law like dirt. Their is obviously a cycle of abuse going on here. My mother was never there for me either. I can't seem to attend college because I am so afraid of failing. My mother never took us out for ice cream or anything in that regard. I also seem to be attracting the same type of women who treat me like crap. My girlfriends tend to hang up on me, ignore my calls, only talk to me when they want something then punch me in the face so to speak when they treat me like crap again when I give them what they want. etc. How can I break this cycle and why am I attracted to women like this? How to attract a better women?